Comparing can be self-defeating<\/strong><\/p>\nAt end of financial year Shiv exceeded sales target by a good 28%. Nath\u2019s territory showed least \u2018outstanding dues\u2019 in quarterly review. During \u2018Business Projection\u2019, Ravi\u2019s presentation was adjudged superior. Mani, of above-average calibre, reproached himself for not making it to the top grade and, when repeated a third time, started suspecting his prowess. Having sown such doubt, it gradually undermined own worth. At any work-place there will be better performing individuals, which doesn\u2019t mean one is incompetent or needs carry an inferiority complex. Letting the shine of others pale your own glow (qualities possessed ) could cause retreat into the shadows, reaching a point where a relatively intense flame may get extinguished altogether. For Mani the message is : not being among \u2018rankers\u2019 must act as spur to redouble efforts to gain proficiency ; an additional measure would be to identify a role \u2013model and seek counsel on vexing issues.<\/p>\n
Rather than envy, forge ahead<\/strong><\/p>\nLamenting \u2018If only …………\u2019 seeks a crutch and indicates lack of resolve to exert oneself. Nothing worthwhile is achieved without putting in labour. Mere sitting back and expecting things to work out satisfactorily is like waiting for a miracle \u2013 a wait that may stretch interminably. Undaunted by limited means and fired by a clear aim to realise (not satisfied with just yearning), is what example below illustrates.<\/p>\n
The project (for retired personnel) comprised 2BHK houses, with foundation built for extending another room, garage and one more storey. Present accommodation was insufficient for Tara\u2019s joint family, but her PF amount didn\u2019t permit expense involved. Noticing neighbour begin construction, immediate thought that flashed was \u201cWhy can\u2019t I afford? \u2013 lucky him\u201d. She knew, of course, begrudging would yield no result. Pondering over the matter, she decided income could be generated through consultancy service. En-cashing on professional expertise, a few months into new vocation saw a financial base that would soon enable comfortable living in spacious accommodation. The following year she added a floor (portion thereof serving as consultancy chamber) and now backs herself to fulfill the next dream.<\/p>\n
Criticizing and complaining are cheer spoilers<\/strong><\/p>\nNobody is perfect and some situations are less than perfect \u2013 accept this reality and life becomes easier to negotiate. Gossip about an acquaintance \/ relative or by nature dissatisfied with most things that happen, earns the person an \u2018unsocial\u2019 label and soon finds himself\/herself unwelcome by company around. It is debatable criticising \/ complaining improves matters, but it does exhibit a mean streak \/ aggravate degree of fulfillment \u2013 one is an avoidable trait and other, unwanted baggage. Despite failings, each of us possess some redeeming feature — perceive this in others and his\/her entire image transforms. Develop a tolerant perspective (neither fret over outcome contrary to anticipated) and occasions to gripe automatically reduce. If such be the unfolding, in a saner moment one obvious question arises: Why behave in a manner that deprives me of cheer?<\/p>\n
Refuse to buckle under<\/strong><\/p>\nA major setback (failed business deal that was fallout of personal inadequacy) or a cruel blow (death in family) is no doubt a shattering experience, inducing a mood \u2018All is lost\u2019. It is in such crisis the individual of fortitude summons inner strength to get along in life. To succumb when struck by adversity and, further, demean oneself to becoming an object of pity would be sinking to depths unlikely to rise from. Despondency must be shaken off and faith placed in ability to effect revival. Fate is regarded as something beyond one\u2019s control but determinedly coping with that untoward event through effective steps, will steer towards better times. In face of such meet-the-challenge attitude, \u2018God helps those who help themselves\u2019 does truly transpire.<\/p>\n
Good fortune is always welcome but life will have its share of disappointments\/trials, in which circumstance resilience acts as saviour. Sustenance also comes from mental frame one has developed viz. of being reasonably content generally, as summed up in : For those material- worldly, success is getting what you want; for the detached and enlightened, happiness is wanting what you get.<\/p>\n
By – H S Baral (Ex-Chief , Mktg. & Sales, Transmission Deptt., BHEL)<\/p>\n
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